Tuesday, September 19, 2006

Here I am too - felt left out

Well, here I am gang!!

Looks like we're all gonna be bloggers now huh? S'ok, Bond's was getting boring anyway - JUST KIDDING!

What to say? Well, I love to write, as some of you might know. But lately it seems that my muse has left me (and Dana won't lend me Bessie). So whilst in search of a new muse, I will just ramble about anything and everything that comes to mind. Heck, I might even transfer some of the stuff from my other blog over to here, just so y'all have something to read.

But I'd like to talk about something today that's been bothering me a little bit. It's about society in general.

I don't know how many of our US neighbours are paying attention to what's going on up here in the Great White North, but last week we had a shooting at a Montreal College - Dawson College to be more specific. It was a sad event, of course. Minimal death, but even one is too many (I'm not counting the shooter, the bastard deserved what he got).

My problem with the aftermath is that just because this sicko posted on a well known gothic blog site (, all of the sudden my husband decided that anyone who posts on there is an idiot, and determined to harm others. Now, I have several friends who post on that site, as do I, and trust me, none of us are out to cause anyone any harm.

This guy posted pics of himself with a gun, with a knife, and posted some truly weird shit. BUT, because no one called anyone to inform them (police, or the webmaster), VF is getting a bad rap. All I can say is that there are over 60,000 people posting on that website. What are the odds that enough people paid attention to HIS that it would cause concern? Not very likely in my opinion. I don't go on there searching for new people to make friends with. In fact I've been asked to join several groups on there, and I've chosen not to. I keep to the people I know, and all others I ignore. My point of being on there is to express myself (privately) without others knowing, and only those I truly have contact with, know that it's me.

Do you feel that it's the community's job to police itself? Should those of us who aren't even on there for the purpose of meeting people start surfing other profiles to find out if any of them are wacked out? Or is that the webmasters job?

I don't know if this makes any sense to anyone else, but at this point in time, it makes sense to me.

Ok, onto another topic. We've been going on about this on another board I belong to, and I'd welcome your thoughts on this.

Is it ok for a woman who's spoken for (engaged, married or in a relationship period) to have single male friends? Because I frankly think that it's ok. Other people have said that it's not ok, because the men are always after one thing (Trav, Bond, I'm hoping you guys will put that theory to bed - so to speak), and they hope that by being friends with a woman first that they will eventually get it.

I think that's BS. And even if it IS true, that doesn't meant that the guy is going to get some. I happen to have several friends that I have NO interest in doing ANYTHING with. And yet, as a married woman, I get frowned upon if I'm with a male friend and I happen to run into people I know. It's frustrating. And what's even more frustrating is that people don't understand this basic fact: it takes TWO to tango. One willing and one unwilling partner can't even get on the dance floor.

I've related better with guys my whole life, from being a tomboy in grade school, to being "one of the guys" in high school. And even today, I can hang out with men better than I can with women, cuz with women, it's always a competition regardless of the topic. Ok, I should ammend that to say MOST women. We get catty, we get bitchy and yes, we get very competitive. I don't know why, I think it's programmed into our genetic make up. With men, I can relax, be myself, and not worry if my hair isn't right, or my makeup is smudged, or, god forbid, I wore the wrong shoes. I help my male friends check out chicks, and they ask me for advice on their relationships. We laugh, belch, and throw things at each other.

So why, when I'm that comfortable with a person, is it such an issue to society what that persons gender is?

Again, I just don't get it. Anyone care to explain?


Unknown said...

I'm reading Andrea...good job!

Lee Ann aka Dixie said...

woooooo tackehugs Angel Baby!

I'm going to start by saying that what happened in Montreal at Dawson College is heart breaking. What I don't understand is WHY people think that just because one person posted junk on a site everyone else is just like that? I would NEVER classify a group of people by the actions of one NUT JOB! Did I make sense?

I am in totaly agreement with you about the man friends thing. I have many single male friends as well as Tony as many single female friends. Seems to me that if someone is uncomfortable with their mate having single friends of the opposite sex then they are very insecure with their relationship. Did that make sense too?

Ok, I'm through rambing... for today...


Lee Ann


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